Nowadays, it seems as though just about everyone has a Home Office. Some people dedicate a corner of their bedroom, others might use the dining room table, and some just sit down and work where ever it's convenient at the time. It's important, however, to keep a solid line between work and home or work and family, for as soon as you start to blur that line, it can affect you and your family in ways you didn't expect.
A friend of mine - we'll call him Henry - recently got the opportunity to work from home a couple of days each week. This was something he had been hoping for, and now it was a reality. He was pretty excited to not have to endure the commute for those days. Since he was only going to be working from home twice a week, and his main work location was still at the office, he didn't think it was necessary to stake out a dedicated location at home for his work. He already had a computer in the kitchen, and if he needed to spread out, he could just move to the dining room - as long as he cleaned up in time for dinner.
Henry's job is pretty demanding, and this wasn't changing. On the days he worked from home, he still got up early, ate breakfast, then got down to work. He's a focused kind of guy, so he got his work done and cleaned up where he was working in time for the family to sit down to dinner. Everything seemed to be going pretty well.
Things were different, though. The dinner table was getting quieter. It turned out that Henry was often still focused on his work since he was sitting in the same chair in the same room where he was working just minutes earlier, and his family was also getting used to having to "keep things down" when they were around him. The normal hustle and bustle of the house was too much of a distraction while he was working, and his family respected that. Unfortunately, his work was slowly and subtly working its way into his family life.
In a conversation with me one day over lunch, Henry told me he was considering returning to working at the office full-time as he reflected on the impact things were having on his family. While he didn't come into the office twice a week, it seemed as though he was always at work. And in fact, it was true. Even in the evenings, he would see the computer or the dining room table, and it would cause his thoughts to wander toward work. He might even slip off to get "just one more thing done" before bed.
I suggested to Henry that he actually did need to return to a separation between work and home, but not in the way he was thinking. All he really needed to do was to find a place he could use as an office - a place where he could shut out the noise when he needed, and where he could shut off the work when he wasn't actually working. He considered two options. He had a room in the basement that was very separate from the rest of the house, but he didn't like the seclusion. He also had a spare room that was rarely ever used. This room was closer to everything, but it still had a door so it could be closed off whenever he needed. This was the perfect place. Close enough to the active parts of the house so he wouldn't feel secluded, but able to be shut off when necessary just by closing the door. Now his family didn't have to tip-toe around while he was working, and when the day was done, he could simply close the door and put the workday behind him. He also didn't have to clean up his workspace every day.
I'm happy to say that Henry continued working from home twice a week, and things have returned to normal at home. He's even gotten good at not completely secluding himself during the day. He still works very hard, but he breaks for lunch with the family, and even strolls around the house to have fun with his family when he just needs a short break. He especially enjoys welcoming the kids home from school.